True Self Discovery (Part 2) Unlocking Your Health & Freedom Through Purpose
Updated: May 25
Who Am I?
The age-old question on the path to self-realization is “Who am I?”
Seekers and philosophers often say that by simply asking this question you can have profound insight into not only your True Nature but the nature of all things. While this may be ultimately true, I have found that this type of inquiry can cause confusion and self-doubt as we begin to realize we have no idea who we truly are. Those with a history of trauma and/or chronic illness can experience even greater resistance to the unraveling of identity.
Why would we resist knowing who we truly are?
Why would we be afraid of our True Self?
Why would we unconsciously resist or even sabotage that discovery process?
It comes down to identity preservation. Simply put, we are programmed to prove our core identity and belief structures right, even if they are destructive. Most of us have false core beliefs that were imprinted as children such as “I can’t have what I truly want” and/or “I will be rejected by others”. As I wrote in Part 1 last month, our protective identities form early on and become so familiar that we “claim” them like us. If we try to change our core sense of ourselves, or our identity, the unconscious protective mechanisms can kick and scream a bit...aka “limbic resistance to change.” We protect ourselves from fully expressing that free, beautiful True Self that we may have lost in our childhood.
For those on the journey of true transformation, there comes a time when they must decide to discover their true nature and relinquish these false beliefs and identities. This choice requires a willingness to risk both failure and rejection. It requires facing the unconscious resistance to change head-on. And it will most likely result in a period of “identity disorientation” where you know the false protective identity is not how you want to behave, but you don’t yet have a clear sense of what you do want to feel, believe, and behave like in the world.
Sift Your True Self Out of The Dross
So how do we get reoriented to our True Nature? We must go on a quest of self-discovery and develop keen discernment between protective identities and our healthy adult main personality.
This quest of True Self Discovery is what I love to teach others in my programs and here's what I think this discovery process includes:
1. Thought- Using our mind to inquire
a. What do I like? What adjectives describe me? What do I value? What are my favorite hobbies? What did I like to do as a child? What do I want to do in the future?
2. Emotion- Using our creativity and will to self-generate emotions
a. What emotions do I want to experience when I’m in my True Nature? Specifically, focus on discovering your unique emotional personality signature- You must practice creatively finding a way to self-generate this emotional state to teach your old identity how the True You feels about yourself. This also includes the process of developing "emotional literacy."
3. Somatic Body Feelings- A felt sense of your unique “I am” presence
a. What does it feel like in your body when you are in our alignment- which is your True Self-resonance. There is a specific way your body will feel to you when you are centered on your truth. (This is what I really focus on in the somatic aspect of my Primal Trust mentorship). This requires a willingness to be in the body to recognize through developing "interoception skills" or the felt sense of one's True Nature.
4. Purpose- A desire to pursue our passions
b. What is it that your essence wants to do and experience in this precious human life? How do you want to serve humanity or nature? What makes you feel most aligned, authentic, and filled with passion? What gives you the most sense of self-respect and appreciation for your gifts and talents? We will explore this step in particular in greater detail below.
5. Courage- The willingness to withstand adversity in the process of expansion
a. What does it feel like to be willing to experience resistance while at the same time deciding to pursue your truth of being who you are meant to be? The pathway of transformation will always entail both internal and external resistance as well, and you must decide that you no longer feel powerless in those situations. This is the process of developing deep self-trust, which I call “Primal Trust” and living your life by deciding you are a resilient, capable being who deserves to be able to live a life you love.
Do you know the good news for most of you?
The good news for most of you that are reading this blog is that you can do this with the brain retraining practices you are already skilled at doing. And brain retraining is a great way to address the issues I first identified in this blog. Through creative visualization and practicing creating better feeling emotional states, you can attune your perception to a new reality where you deserve to and can have what you want. (For those that are not brain retraining you can learn more about what that is at my website or a brief explanation of the brain rewiring method I created on my YouTube channel. Some of the other skills I mentioned above, such as emotional literacy and interoception, are somatic awareness practices that I teach. I recommend my clients combine these skills with their current brain retraining to deepen their healing practice.)
The deal is (and this is something I wish I could broadcast loud and clear to you all)-
You need to know what you are rewiring into!
Let me repeat-
YOU MUST GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU ARE REWIRING TOWARDS
This discovery is unique to YOU.
Without a clear understanding of who you really are, what you really want, and how you truly want to feel, your efforts to retrain might literally lead you in circles, like a ship without a rudder.
Yes, practicing brain retraining without a true sense of self or direction can and will reduce symptoms as it decreases the limbic threat response. That said, it is unlikely to produce real changes in your life if not done with a clear sense of purpose and outcome.