• Candy Widdifield

Dear Candy Q & A: Taking Stock

There's a soup company on Granville Island in Vancouver, BC called The Stock Market. The first time I saw their sign I laughed and thought it was wonderful! Now every time I hear or use the word stock I am reminded of it. Ah, the power of positive associations!


Anyway, this blog isn't about soup, its about taking a moment to reflect on where we are right now in our recovery and where we are headed. When we are on the kind of healing journey that retraining the brain requires, it is a good idea every once in a while to pause and take stock. From there, we can then create a clear map of where we are going and how we are going to get there.


I invite you to join me here on a self-reflective journey as you answer the following questions:

  1. Since beginning your retraining, what are the positive changes that you've noticed? (include mental, emotional, energetic, connectedness or spiritual changes in addition to physical ones)

  2. What are you still wanting to change?

  3. What are your biggest areas of challenge currently?

  4. What tools do you already have to assist you with those challenges?

  5. How can you apply those tools in a way that serves you moving forward?

  6. What values and strengths do you have that you can draw upon to support you in applying these tools?

  7. How can you practically apply those strengths and values in the everyday to support you?

  8. What skills do you want to develop further or information you'd like to learn more about to support you in those changes and moving forward?

  9. Where can you learn those skills or information?

  10. How will you know you're recovered? What are the signs both inside yourself and visible to the external world that will tell you that you've reached your goal?

  11. What tools or skills do you possess that can help you develop those qualities inside yourself (that you described in question 10) that tell you you've recovered?

  12. What strengths and values would you be displaying and putting into action as a recovered person?

  13. How can you start to bring in more of those strengths and values now into your current everyday living?


Like any self-reflective tool, the more you put into answering these questions - i.e. the more honest you are with yourself and the deeper you dig to find your answers, the more you will get out of this exercise. By taking the time to flesh out these details, you will have created a roadmap to your success!



Until next time!


I am currently out of questions to answer, so if you have something you have been wondering about or a question you want to ask, now is a great time to do so!


If you have a question, please email me at dearcandyquestions@gmail.com

Candy Widdifield is Registered Clinical Counsellor, Wellness Coach, and Registered Reiki Master Teacher in Kelowna, British Columbia, Canada. She works with people all over the world, helping them to optimize their wellbeing and thrive in their lives. Her modalities include coaching, therapy, Reiki and the Safe & Sound Protocol. More information about Candy can be found at www.candywiddifield.com