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Dear Candy Q & A: Self-identity & Belief

Here is a powerful excerpt from an article Joe Dispenza recently wrote:

"At our workshops around the world, it’s not uncommon that someone stands on the stage and tells the story of their own personal healing. Often they will begin by acknowledging the fact that, because they had been dealing with their health condition for so long, they became used to thinking and feeling in certain ways, doing the same things every day, behaving in certain unconscious patterns, making the same routine choices, and even taking the same medications—without experiencing any changes in their health condition.

They also elaborate on the fact that they were sent to several different specialists to whom they told the same story, reciting the same case history, only to receive limited recommendations and advice to utilize similar medications, surgeries, or treatment options. Unbeknownst to themselves, in the process of repeatedly retelling the story of their past, they were constantly reaffirming their state of health, which ultimately became their identity. In other words, they told the story so many times that they identified as the personality who was unhealthy. They biologically became the story.

When it came time to apply the work, many of these people also shared the realization that, although they knew this work was the truth—because they saw it work for other people—they had the subconscious belief that it would not work for them.

If you have this belief, this is precisely the moment when it’s time to get off the bench and step onto the playing field, because this is the moment when it matters most. This is the time when you have to change that belief, and do the work with a new level of energy.

The Defining Moment

I say this as a reminder, because if you do the work without the belief that you can be or will be healed, then you haven't changed any aspects of your thinking, behaviors, or emotions. But if you get up from your meditation and believe in your new state of health, and thus your new future, more than when you sat down, then you have created a change in the way you’re thinking and feeling. You’ve changed your state of being. This is important to note because it’s this new feeling that causes you to believe in your future—and when you believe in your future, you’re no longer feeling separate from it. You only feel separate from your future when you’re back to your old personality, thinking and feeling in the same ways, wondering when or if you might get better.

When people in this work decide they are no longer limited or defined by a condition, label, or prognosis—and when they eventually do heal themselves—they can always tell you the exact moment when they decided to go all in. That’s because when they made up their mind to change, it became a highly defining moment—and they can recall where they were, who they were with, what time of day it was, etc.

When they finally made the conscious, intentional choice to show up for themselves every day, they were doing so because they finally believed in the possibility of living a healthy life again. The truth of the matter is, you can't believe in yourself without believing in possibility, and you can't believe in possibility without believing in yourself."

This week I invite you to take a look at how you identify yourself and what you identify with. Are you holding onto an identity that is health affirming and conducive to moving forward in your life, or are you holding onto old ideas or labels that keep you playing the same old patterns in your brain and reinforce the old emotional states? What would it take to give up those old labels? To open to the possibility that, regardless of your past, you really can change? What do you want to start identifying with in order to help make this happen?

Until next time!

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Candy Widdifield is Registered Clinical Counsellor, Wellness Coach, and Registered Reiki Master Teacher in Kelowna, British Columbia, Canada. She works with people all over the world, helping them to optimize their wellbeing and thrive in their lives. Her modalities include coaching, therapy, Reiki and the Safe & Sound Protocol. More information about Candy can be found at


Hi Candy, thank you again for a wonderful post. These words from Joe Dispenza are very powerful indeed. Can you elaborate further on what Dr Dispenza means by doing the work. I am very familiar with his meditations and I do at least one of his medications every day and have done this for over a year. I have also been doing DNRS for just over a year and have seen good shifts albeit through a constant lens of ebbs and flows. I am assuming that when Dr Dispenza talks about doing the work he means...Catching PoPs and Acting Greater Than How You Feel. Would I be correct in saying that. I have read all his books but he does…

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Thanks for that Candy


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